“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” – Mahatma Gandhi
**All this month my posts have been palms up and high fives but today the palm is down in a giving, handing gesture.
A friend of mine was complaining about not getting what she expected from a networking event, and another friend reminded her that she needed to approach it with a selfless attitude. As in not thinking: “What’s in it for me” (WIIFM!) instead thinking “What can I bring to this event?” In other words, “How can I help you?” He said to take the world with a “palms down” approach – What can I hand to you? What can I give? Instead of the “palms up” approach indicated, “What can I get?”
Making others feel positive, uplifting people has a direct effect on your mood as well.
A post called The Joy of Giving at www.psychologytoday.com website discussed studies done involving helping others. One of the prime examples showed that those who were members of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and helped other members were “significantly less likely to relapse in the year following treatment” which was when most relapses occur. Another case presented involved a home for mental health recovery where the members helped each other. The director stated “that people tend to be more stable and happy if they feel like they are benefiting people more than themselves, or outside themselves.”
My friend went to her next networking event with the idea that she would go early, volunteer to help with food, setup or wherever they needed her. And as I recall, she made a lot more memorable connections that day.
In closing, keep in mind – your palms are always down when you’re pulling someone else up.